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All we need is love. It’s a silent language, it can bring us together and pull us apart, but ultimately it is the one force that can change lives forever, even if it’s super hard to love ourselves. It is the one thing that hits us right in the heart when unexpected adversity strikes us and makes us grateful. I’m entering the new year with no resolutions, more with this mantra: “Find yourself, be yourself, love yourself.”. I hope that people may have the courage to just be themselves and to do whatever makes them happy.
Aspirations like these don’t make you complete. They don’t make you worthy, they don’t make you enough. They don’t make you you. If we keep seeking for something so hard, do we ever have a chance of getting near it? In the words of Salvador Dali “Have no fear of perfection, you’ll never reach it.” So I’m going to try my best to be an imperfect perfectionist.
A couple of my friends labelled themselves as “broken” when I was chatting with them recently about how they feel mentally or physically. Not only did this prompt me to think of what I could say to them to make them feel even a little bit better, but it made me reflect on all of the harsh self talk I bombard myself with and how I could fight back. Here’s what I came up with…this is for me and you.
Many of us are tired, deflated, and stressed. Life isn’t simple anymore. We all want to slow down but quickly. Our attention spans are severely compromised by multi tasking on an epic scale...not just at work but in our leisure time too. We’re stuck in fast forward mode where we want things (money, cars, muscles, better jobs to name but a few) quickly. We want happiness but make ourselves unhappy by pushing ourselves to find it. What if we were to just slow down?
See the brain is a funny thing. I had such strong conditioned beliefs built up over many years, that I filtered out or reinterpreted all fact-based evidence challenging them. I’ve always been against animal cruelty and would actually admit to feeling more connected to animals than humans. I knew the “organic” labels on my dairy and eggs meant nothing and this all came from an “industry”, but I kept on eating them (the technical term for this is cognitive dissonance).
So let’s carry on living even when our shoulders are heavy, and take these awareness weeks and days to tell the truth if we can. I’m posting this here in the hope that someone who needs to know it, will know they’re not alone. I’m waving from where I am to you - just know you are stronger than your anxiety, you can do this and it is absolutely ok if you are not feeling ok.
Why does social media make me feel so miserable? The reality is I know “unplugging” would make me more productive and give me a sense of freedom. I wouldn't care about what others have or do and wouldn't need to use social media to “filter” my insecurities.
So now, in 2018, how did we end up feeling the need to Instagram, Tweet and Facebook everything? To check in at each location (and casually advertise our empty houses and very disposable millennial-parent-sponge-because-the-mortgage-dream-is-slow-to-realise income) we go to and show off the shiny days of our lives?
Latest Poetry Posts
If you want to know what that is like:
Try searching online without having a keyword.
Try finding a word in the dictionary,
That you don’t even know exists yet.
That was the first page.
We are the Lost Girls.
The lost generation.
The girls they looked straight at but did not see,
The girls they missed,
The girls not diagnosed with Autism.
Life is music, it’s dancing
like no one is watching.
It’s the cool breeze,
the sun’s warm glow over your face.
Life is scary, it’s sleeping.
It’s the crash of the ocean waves,
the sight of the moon and skies
on your darkest of days.
am amazing thing,
To get drunk on the past
gorge on the future’s promise,
spectacularly fall from grace, fail.
Believe in yourself
not in the hopes,
of someone else.
Why am I falling
When I should be flying?
Why am I crying
When I should be smiling?
We share our voices loud
Champion what we’re told to hate
And if you think social media has no value
You erase those who need safe space.
Don’t add up the laughter,
Don’t subtract the tears,
Don’t count up the kisses,
Don’t tally up the years.
Don’t factor in the kind words,
Don’t take away the harsh,
Don’t strive to be perfect,
For love is more,
Than the sum of its parts.
For the sea
Can break you.
If you let it in.
Or embrace you.
But that day
The sea brought stillness.
Showing me how
To just love me.
They say life is what you make of it,
but it’s two weeks into January;
the not-so-pretty side of winter.
The sky streaks grey in every shade,
I’m skint from Christmas
but now the ads say ‘get away’
and it looks like I can’t afford a holiday.
I write for comfort and it’s my way of dealing with it all. It helps me instead of talking. I have been through tough times in the past, which may or may not have been my own doing, but I have come through them so I know I can get through this. Nothing will change, the void my brother left will always be there. I will move forward and keep my brother close to my heart with the memories we shared. I will do the things that I set out to do and forget the things I can’t. I will follow my path and accept my destiny.
Give yourself license to fail.
My name is Mark, and almost a year ago, I tragically lost my little brother, Michael, who was 45 years old. He had an accident at work. My life changed forever and the days, months, and years ahead were now so different. No words can describe the mountain and challenges faced by my family and I.
I recently wrote down some thoughts on paper for Mindfizz about losing Mick. It isn’t much, but really sums up both my love for Mick and how writing can help to express deep emotions.
You might even be one of those people who is experiencing mental health challenges. So why, when mental health issues are so prevalent in society do we stigmatise the subject, making it harder for those people to seek the help they need?
When things don’t go our way and we encounter challenges, it’s the most incredible ground to get to know ourselves more intimately. You just can’t breeze by in life when something painful comes up – you’ve got to go deeper. Mental health for me is about feeling peaceful in those challenges rather than feeling fearful or helpless. I try to work through each bump I encounter, safe in the knowing that there is healing to do... and embrace the chance to get to know myself a little better.
Mindfizz meets Lewis Moran who shares his views on how he looks after his mental health, "Self care to me is...exercise, it helps me. It releases really good endorphins and settles my mind, and relieves stress. Music has always has meaning to me, it uplifts my mood. I also like to learn about mental health through books, it really helps stock my toolkit for when I have anxiety!"